Likewise, our internal, subjective experience of the universe is also generated inside our brains, this time according to the unfathomably complex deliberations of our subconscious. The way that we feel moment to moment is therefore subject to change and to the influence of events around us, the majority of which are beyond our control.
This is why those that practice techniques like mindfulness find it easier to respond proportionately and appropriately to stresses; they have trained their minds to respond to events in a particular way so that they may retain a greater degree of control over their overall emotional state. I sat down with Euchar Vela, the Director and Founder of Karanja property investment to get his take on what mindsets can sabotage a career. Below are some of the most common negative mindsets that can have disastrous consequences for you professionally. Avoid these at all costs!
This is one of the most common destructive mindsets that we all experience at one point or another. In this mindset, we allow our lack of self-confidence to define our opinions of ourselves and our work. Significant levels of self-doubt and insecurity lead us to seek validation from others; we feel as if we need their praise before we can give ourselves permission to take pride and satisfaction in our own work. This not only reduces the speed we work at, as we become easily distracted obsessing over superficial details, it reduces our confidence in our own decision-making.
The best way to combat this state of mind is to remind yourself often of your talents and abilities as an individual. When you feel the need for external validation, look within and find reasons to be proud of your work before you show it to anyone else.
Eventually, something will go wrong. This is an unavoidable, universal truth of our universe. The true measure of one’s character lies not in their ability to never make a mistake, that would be an impossible expectation, instead of strength and adaptability are measured by the way that we respond to crises when they occur. Panic is a useful emotion for humans in certain conditions, namely those where we need to make a quick escape from danger. Unfortunately, the evolution of our brains still hasn’t caught up with our modern lifestyles and so when we panic at work, the internal processes in our brain are responding to an entirely different set of circumstances.
Deferring responsibility is a self-defense mechanism that is a knee-jerk reaction for many of us. When things go wrong the best thing to do is to take responsibility by owning any mistakes you have made and presenting some solutions.
Complaining is something that should only ever be practiced in very particular circumstances when it is appropriate. The rest of the time complaining is usually not very productive, achieves little, and is sure to raise the ire of your co-workers. Much better than complaining about an issue is proposing a solution to it.
Fear of Change
This was my major takeaway from the conversation I had with Euchar, the Director and Founder of Karkanja property investment; change is a normal and healthy part of any entrepreneur’s professional life, and as such it is not something that should be feared. All change represents an opportunity. Even if things are going well, there is always room for improvement and unexpected change can bring unexpected benefits.
Fear of Losing
Here’s another hard truth; eventually you will lose. Even the most skilled businessman can’t pull off the perfect deal every time. Sometimes you will have to compromise, other times you will have to accept defeat graciously. It is important to know when it is appropriate to seek a better deal and when you should cut your losses and accept defeat.
Our minds are both fickle and powerful things. If we don’t respect the complexity of our own minds and take extra care to train ourselves to respond appropriately, then minor incidents throughout the day can have a disproportionate impact on our performance.