My husband is a drinker he is abusive verbally when he drinks, when we first met he was polite, compassionate and sweet. Alcohol takes him to a different place and changes his whole personality, I have tried to get him to go for help, but he says he does not have a problem. My question is this IF someone has drank there whole life, do you think they could change and be able to just cut back to a reasonable amount or is he an alcoholic. Is there hope or not? We have been married 6 years. I dont think I can take it anymore..