Coming to Terms with Your Elderly Loved Needing Extra Help People are living much longer in 2017 than they were the 1960s. The life expectancy for a male in 1960 was 66 years old, whereas now an average male can be expected to reach 78. The increase is fantastic news – we want our loved ones to be around for as long as possible – but it has had negative repercussions on an economic and social scale.



We are living longer but not necessarily staying healthy for longer, too. The growing population of senior citizens is resulting in a greater need for healthcare to maintain their quality of life. This puts an enormous strain on the children of the elderly, as they feel a responsibility to care for them as well as their own families and themselves.

If your parent goes into a nursing home or has a home visitor come to keep up with their medication, care and companionship, it can have a surprising effect. Your protector now needs protecting, and this can be a strange feeling to face; the roles are reversed and you’re unsure how to overcome this alien feeling.

You need to remember, however, that the care your loved one is receiving will improve their life – and yours. You may feel like you need to look after them, but this isn’t true. Instead, you need live your life, and also hope your loved one can live a better, more comfortable one. You’re incredibly busy, whether it be because of a relationship, work, or your own children; letting your protector be protected is the best outcome for everyone involved.

Try to put aside the feelings of jealousy and instead be thankful that someone is there to share the load. There’s no question that you can provide your parent all the emotional support in the world, but there comes a time when you must accept that you can’t handle all their medical needs, too. There will be tasks that you won’t feel confident doing (by yourself, at least) such as lifting, administering drugs, liaising with the doctor and effectively dealing with possible mental difficulties.



Plus, caringpeopleinc.com suggests that elderly patients need to improve their quality of life through means you may be unfamiliar with. For example, music therapy can help those suffering from Huntington’s, Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s. It can increase serotonin, prolactin, melatonin and norepinephrine. It can help with patients being able to remember and speak, and it can counteract certain effects of ageing such as hearing difficulties.

As well as promoting self-worth and helping to manage stress, elderly patients can help express their feelings through music; therefore, improving communication. Having an elderly care service manage music therapy means you do not have to worry about sticking to a routine yourself, there is no risk of missing out on such an important therapy because you have your own plans and responsibilities to stick to. You can protect them without the pressure of having to.