I really can't remember when I first began realizing this fact but it wasn't too long ago.
As dismal as this may sound it really has a silver lining.
Knowing and accepting the fact that my future is finite has driven me to focus on two things:
1. Removing those things in my life that are senseless and non-productive
2. Concentrating on what's most important in life
We all know what negatively effects our lives.
It can be a bad habit like smoking, an unhealthy relationship, a dead end job or a disparaging circle of friends.
We know what needs to be done to correct these issues.
But the second course of action has taken some time to come to terms with.
Actually, it still continues to weave itself into my daily routine.
I am still not really sure what my priorities should be.
There is still some doubt surrounding my decisions.
This isn't a negative though.
In fact, concentrating on and really trying to explore what is important in life has been an uplifting and gratifying experience so far.
There is a certain degree of satisfaction knowing that you are truly attempting to experience life instead of just letting your life run you.
There is also a deeper connection to your fellow man knowing that there are many more Baby Boomers among us struggling with and finding peace with this debate.
I would think that there would be such an incredible level of clarity at this final point in our life that there would be no room for doubt or fear.
Believe it or not, there are incredible amounts of articles and a profusion of lists written by folks in the final stages of life.
It is interesting that most of them shared a very similar picture of disappointment, remorse and even apology for what they considered the shortcomings in their lives.
Using the direction and advice from these folks I have put together what I consider my primary life "Honey Do" list.
So, on this "Fervid Friday" I bring you what I consider the "Top 10 Regrets of Life."
By realizing that so many people have acknowledged these shortcomings in their lives, I can use them to target what truly needs to be done to make my life complete.
If you choose, so can you.
Find the strength to do what you want. Don't be afraid to do things. Fear can paralyze us, but we can’t let it. Never be afraid of taking a big risk (especially in love). Taking a bigger risk can pay off more than taking a smaller one.
Make physical fitness a priority. As you get older you’ll realize how important it is to take care of your body. Maintaining a healthy body as you get older gives you the best chance of reaching your maximum potential.
Spend time with your loved ones first. This includes both family and friends. Some people get caught up with work, move to other parts of the world, grow old with grudges against family members only to realize their priorities were in the wrong place. We are all on this earth for a limited amount of time, don’t take the granted for granted.
Tell everyone that needs to be told “I love you.” It doesn't have to be in those words but loving another person is a precious gift. Again, don't let time run out on you and don't be afraid. You probably spent your entire youth being self-absorbed. There is more to the world than just you.
Travel why you have the chance. Traveling gets harder as you get older. Physically, it's harder to do and at our age more and more people depend on your presence. When the opportunity presents itself, take it. Explore the world.
Distance yourself from all bad relationships. It may hurt to end a bad relationship, but it’s not as painful and damaging as staying in it and wasting everyone’s time. Be humane and use common sense in your decisions but you need to clarify who goes and who remains in your life.
Start moving faster. Don’t hesitate when making decisions. Your have a lifetime of experience and intuition to guide you now. Don't waste your time on details. Again, your time is limited so accomplish what needs to be done.
If you don't like your job then quit. I know you have financial obligations to meet and people rely on you for support but don't allow yourself to b miserable every day. If you are taking these priorities seriously, you will find a way to support yourself by doing something that is fulfilling and you enjoy. There is no sense in working so much to reach someone else's goals.. You’re going to miss the good parts of life, or be too stressed to enjoy them.
Learn how to cook. Then cook a lot even if it's just one signature meal. Cooking embraces life. It brings family and friends together. Forgive the pun but it adds spice to life.
Experience the arts. Whether it's seeing your favorite aging rock bands, world class symphony, ballet, opera, art showings or visiting museums experience the best life has to offer. Do it everywhere you travel.
Would these serve as a good template for prioritizing on what is important in your life?
I know each of you out there have your own personal priorities and I would love to hear them.
Please post them in the comments below.
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