Have you ever tried to skateboard?
My son is one of those naturals who can go down a steep hill or do tricks at a skatepark seemingly without effort. I told my son one day how I envied him on his skateboarding ability and how he makes it look like fun. So he tells me that he will teach me.
Now, if you have never tried it let me tell you that it is hard! In fact, it is practically impossible! Skateboarders, I am convinced, are super human! They have an uncanny ability to make something so difficult look so easy.
“Mom,” my son tells me, “you are making it too hard! It is easy! Just stand on the board and use one foot to make it move!”
As he was teaching me he was saying things that I could not help but correlate to how I want to live my life.
Here are his five words of wisdom:
1) ”Be in the moment” - If you are really in the moment then you are not thinking ahead of what might happen - good or bad. When things get scary fall back on just being in the moment. When you are in the zone you can overcome any obstacle.
2)“Take a risk” - Hum…For me taking a risk was skateboarding out of the driveway and onto the street. For my son it is learning how to learn different railslides and kickflips. One thing is for sure, it would be a very boring ride if I did not take a chance and leave my driveway!
3) ”Don’t panic!” - Right! Easier said then done! When you are coasting down the hill feeling like you will loose control, in my case the driveway, it is hard to have the confidence that you will be okay. The reality is that you are in control of the situation. Worse case scenario is turn sharply on the board and it will stop or, in my case, put my foot down on the driveway.
4) “Enjoy the ride” - No matter where the board takes you, there are times where you just want to coast, feel the wind on your face and take in the view.
5) “Just have fun!” - My son tells be to just have fun! I can honestly say that skateboarding is not my thing but for my son it is fun! He likes the challenge. He likes the adrenaline rush it can give him. And he likes the camaraderie of the skateboarding community.
Be in the moment, take a risk, don’t Panic, enjoy the ride and just have fun! Sound familiar?
I am glad I tried it and gave it my best shot but I honestly don't think I will ever conquer skateboarding. I am just as happy to watch my son enjoying his life.
But that day, my son taught me a valuable lesson. I learned to live life like you are skateboarding - feeling a sense freedom, knowing it takes courage and learning to enjoy where the road takes you!
Audrey van Petegem is an independent blogger that has been published on a variety of online magazine and blogs such as, Huffington Post, BlogHer, Elephant Journal and Midlife Boulevard. She describes herself as a book reviewer, midlifer and ponderer. As a baby boomer, she will be the first to tell you the good, the bad and the ugly about this stage of life. Follow her on Twitter @Audreyvp.