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Since it's my 19th Mother's Day, as a mom myself that is, I was thinking about what it's going to take to be a decent parent in the coming years.  As a therapist, I have heard a lot about tongue biting.  Setting boundaries about keeping grandchildren.  Struggling about kids being so far away.  Or so close!

I had my child at the tender age of 39 through in vitro fertilization.  Our own test tube miracle.

Right now, he is in college 9 hours away.  Our relationships consists mostly of texting.  Not much calling really.  I find myself guiding when asked, which is fairly frequently for practical life stuff mostly.  But he is on his own for a lot.  We have a good, solid relationship. 

I am lucky.

However, I realize there has been no signficant "other" in his life so far.  I know that makes things far more complex.

I am eager to hear your experiences with your children.  How moving into another way of relating to your adult children changed you.  Changed your life.  For the better.  Maybe for the worse.


Dr. Margaret Rutherford is a clinical psychologist who has been in private practice for over 20 years in Fayetteville, Arkansas. She began blogging in 2012 after her only son left for college, coining the term "NestAche" for her empty nest experience. Not only here on Boomeon, she has been featured on the Huffington Post, Midlife Boulevard, BetterAfter50, BlogHer, Readers Digest, The Cheat Sheet and ArkansasWomenBloggers. Her new eBook, "Seven Commandments of Good Therapy", a basic guide on choosing a therapist or evaluating your current therapy, is available for free on her website. You can find her at DrMargaretRutherford.com or on Twitter @doctor_margaret.

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