I’ve questioned a lot of grandmothers in my job as one who writes about grandparenting. One of my favorite questions posed is this: What do you most want to pass along to your grandchildren? Here are a few of their answers:

Respect for all things, creatures and people, a love of learning, and a sense of adventure. — Gail

I want most to teach them that life is change; that change is not bad (just different); and that the earlier one learns to embrace change, the earlier one will be at peace with life. I also would like them to know that they are lovable just the way they are. — Nita

To be honest in all their dealings. That they are wonderful people who can make a positive difference in this world and not to settle for mediocrity. Strive for the best in everything and always do their best. — Marlene

That they are capable of doing anything they put their minds to. They just may have to realize that a bit of extra effort is required for some other things they may wish for. Also, to never get too caught up in things that you lose site of the little things that can make you smile. — Janie

Memories. She loves hearing stories about when I was young, or her mom was young, or when she was young — especially stories about mommy. I like telling her about the people she will never get to meet, like my dad and my grandparents. — Kc

The love for one another and the love of learning. Education may be something that you acquire in school, but learning is a lifetime process. And the confidence to become the person they were meant to be! — Bernice

You don’t need to be rich to be generous. You can give of your time, talents, and love. Never forget that you are a child of God and with that comes many blessings. — Connie

My practical advice for kids is always ‘if you wouldn’t want to tell your mom about it, you probably shouldn’t do it.’ I plan to pass that advice along as they get older. I think the world would be a better place if we measured all our actions by that yardstick. — Vicki

That I will always love them. That nice matters more than they will ever know and that life’s not fair but is a glorious ride. Mean people suck but you can ignore or laugh at their ignorance, and that irreverence, in the right context, is the only way to roll. — Linda

To keep a kind heart, an active body and a spiritual soul. To give back and pay it forward. — Sharon

The love of a God that is so in love with them that they can talk to Him whenever they want and depend upon Him to always be there for them. — Marilyn

I’d like to pass on the understanding that none of us are perfect and that each day is a new day to try to become better than we were the day before. That forgiveness is the best medicine for ourselves and those who we feel have wronged us, that honesty is very important as it sets a foundation for all relationships. — Suzanne

I want my grandchildren to be generous souls who care about others, who are open-minded, who stand up against bigotry and demagoguery and greed. — Susan

A sense of adventure and being true to yourself. I spent way too many years trying to be what everyone else thought I should be. When I turned 50, I realized that I needed to be true to me. — Donna

Self-confidence and compassion — I want them to be happy with who they are and to care about others. I try to lead by example and want to encourage these qualities in them. — Sherry

Their Hawaiian culture and heritage that they get from me. And to treat everyone as they would like to be treated. — Debbie

The love of people. Taking people as they come, not as you want them to be. It’s hard, but it’s one of the most valuable things I can think of. — Kathy

What do you most want to pass along to your grandchildren?

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Lisa is a Colorado-based freelance writer. She publishes the Grandma's Briefs website, where she shares bits on life's second act and strives to smash the outdated "grandma" stereotype. Lisa has been married to the same man forever; together they have three adult daughters, one son-in-law and three adorable grandsons — children of the middle daughter and her husband. Lisa is easy to find online as she's known as GrandmasBriefs wherever she goes: Twitter (@grandmasbriefs), Facebook, Google+ and elsewhere.