Baby Boomers,

Sometimes you just can't help that things get complicated at our age.
It's a natural progression of change. Face it, we're not young and fresh and virginal like we were in our youth. We carry a lot of baggage.

Let's say you have been divorced for several years and are starting a new relationship. Take a snapshot of the life you are bringing into this new relationship. Sometimes, we have physical or health complications. Most times we have long and varied work and financial histories. Almost always, we have existing friendships and past relationships.

And we have family.

Back in March. I wrote an article about my "Enhanced Nuclear Family" and the wonders and beauty of combining households when starting new personal relationships at our age.

I quote myself from that article:

"Many of us Baby Boomers exist in a world where the stoic, fundamental structure of our family has morphed from the TV families of the 50's like the Cleavers (Leave It To Beaver) or the Mitchells (Dennis The Menace) into something less centralized, more complex, complicated and confusing yet a thousand times more satisfying."


The thing to remember is that although these new variations of "family" can be exciting and wonderful they will always be complicated. There are hundreds of variables you will have to deal with as you piece together your new "family." "What If" becomes the standard mantra of your daily vocabulary.

As fate would have it, I ran across a touching article by my friend, Nancy Hetrick on her website examining just this same issue. I introduced you to Nancy, a "Certified Divorce Financial Analyst," back in October in my article "Smarter Divorce Solutions."

She writes about her experience beginning a new home where both partners have children.

Like I said earlier, it's complicated.
"My Stepkids Hate Me, What Do I Do? You've embarked on a 2nd marriage and are just sure that your blended family is going to thrive until - it doesn't. Now what?

I had been divorced 4 years when I met the man of my dreams and decided to remarry. We both brought children from our first marriages to the relationship.  I had a 12 year old daughter and a 10 year old son and he had a 10 year old daughter. We were pretty sure that with their ages being so similar, we had it made! 
How could kids not like each other right?


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I think Nancy leaves us with some incredibly important advice when she says:

"You should NOT be trying harder than the child to make your relationship flourish."

If we have learned one thing at our age, it's that we can't force things to work the way we want them to.

Be a good person. Be a good role model. Look at your family decisions from everyone's perspective and things have a funny way of working out.