An question from Montman to REAL PEOPLE has me thinking about the difference between having sex versus making love. What's your take?
Right now I'll take either!! Honestly, to me, sex is the more basic "she and I need to seek sexual release", and making love is the addition of passion and intimacy to that. Just my quick take...
This answer could be so different from everyone. For my husband & I , we do love each other and we have sex. So to me when we're making love we're also having sex.
I agree with RD's comment that sex is more about releasing that tension. When it's sex I'm after it's all about scratching that itch lol! To me making love is more about the other person, exploring and pleasing, it is reciprocal, and while the physical act of sex is an integral part of making love, it's more about that emotional connection.
The term "making love" means having sex if the relationship is little more than casual. If the relationship is more than casual, "make love" takes on a new meaning. Not only is it more reciprocal, your partner must be someone you love and who loves you back. Your one and only. The very best kind.
While I do realize that sex and love can be two very different things, I really don't want one without the other, because for me, and this is just how I feel personally, they go hand in hand. One without the other would not be a very satisfactory relationship, either physically or emotionally.
Sex is a biological need...you don't have to be attached to have it. Making love is having sex with emotional attachment. IMHO
You can have sex without love but to me you have to love the person to "make love"'. Sex can be pretty hot without love. I don't know. I'm all confused. LOL
Making love is very much more emotional. Having sex is satisfying a biological need... but must have at least ..some type of attraction, some type of compatibility (chemistry wise)....could also be a result of LUST....imho
Everyone pretty much answered this........If you want to just enjoy sex...fine but it is so much nicer when you really care for each other........................................
good old question, do not need to "be in love" to make love, having sex, is too impersonal, I need at least have a friendship relationship with the other part, share a good experience, share things more than sex, without meaning we are attached as two adolescents, even though that would be grrrrrrreat!
and by the way, this is one of my favorites, from 1964......umbrellas of cherbourg
don't understand considering satisfying a "biological need" without, satisfying "an emotional need" they both are inter twinned....
Need vs desire is the difference I suppose.
I think others pretty much summed it up nicely. Sex can be great or it can be perfunctory and mundane. Making love brings together the physical and the emotional. It's much more intimate. Making love is connection, emotional connection. It's really seeing the other person. Eye contact which when in the throws of intimacy you can see the other's soul. It's letting your guard down. It's openness and vulnerability. I'm finding that men at this age understand the importance of pleasing their partner. When young, it's all about them. At least in my experience it was. Now their top priority is to please their lady. It was such a foreign concept for me. It's appreciating who we are right now at this age. Warts and all. It's embracing the moment and enjoying the journey, not just the destination.
Sex to me is a release or fun, love making is sharing deep feels for one another. I think there is a differnce in the way ya touch, kiss and look into each other eyes. If ya sleep with someone ya don't love how do ya call that love making?
pretty simple....at least for me at this stage in my life, it is all cake. to want someone i have to at least like that someone. i'm not 20 years old and just looking for anyone willing. so that means it is caken when i find anyone i like well enough to be intimate with. and if i happen to care deeply for that person, that is cake with frosting on it, gooey sticky wonderful lick your lips frosting