It’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.  This saying has been ingrained into our minds since pre-school. 

And it’s true. Good sportsmanship is an admirable character trait. One that we need to get through life.

But let’s get real. So is winning.  

No one ever enters a competition to come in last place. We don’t go on a job interview in order to receive a “thank you, but that position has been filled” email. We don’t spend hours away from our loved ones practicing a double Lutz just for the mere fun of it. 

Fact is, we can’t all be number one, all the time. But when we are the best, we need that recognition.

So, it irks me when in today’s “politically correct” world, there’s no score kept at a little league game. Or when everyone gets a prize at a competition. In fact, often times the awards ceremony is longer than the competition itself.

Case in  point: the dance event I went to last weekend.

They gave out the usual first, second, third, fourth and fifth place trophies. Or maybe they went to tenth place. I can’t be sure because my attention was wondering away from the never-ending ceremony.

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And just when I thought it was finally over, they moved on to awards that had nothing to do with dancing at all.  Best costume. Best music. Most entertaining. Cutest pony tails.  Happiest Smile. There was a certificate for everyone.

It went on so long, I expected the MC to turn to the audience and hand out awards to those of us who had been sitting all afternoon on the hard wooden chairs. 

  1. Most annoying mom – For cheering way too loud and long
  2. Most obsessive mom – For packing enough snacks to take her daughter on a road tour
  3. Most fake smile – To the parent who pretended to be having the best time ever  

I’m sure you get my point.

It is important how you play the game, but in the “real” world there are winners and losers. It’s always important to play fair, but it’s a wonderful feeling to come out on top. 

 

Janie Emaus believes that when the world is falling apart, we're just one laugh away from putting it together again.  She writes about how life is NOW compared to THEN, with her special blend of funny and sweet. She is the author of the time travel romance, Before the After, and the young adult novel, Mercury in Retro Love.  And she has an essay in the Best Selling humor anthology, You Have Lipstick On Your Teeth.  She is a staff writer at In The Powder Roomand blogs frequently for The Huffington Post. She is proud to be named a 2013 BlogHer Voice of the Year. To learn more about Janie visit her blog www.theboomerrants.com and her website www.JanieEmaus.com.